So I hardly write what is really going on with me. Mostly because by the time I can post, it has been worked out. There’s no need to write or chat when it has been worked out. Today is different.

I got very clear on my pattern in relationships and what was missing. Do most of us bumble in relationships hoping that things will just work out? That’s how I am. I was asked what I bring to a relationship. I have never asked that of myself before. My answer? Nothing. So then I’m left with a constant question:  “Why is this person with me?”. It also leads to the next question:  “When are they going to leave?”. Not something I want, but seems to happen. Over and over and over and over.

I got much clearer after talking with someone last night. I sure was tired afterwards. I still feel a bit drained. So instead of bringing nothing to a relationship, I have created what I am bringing. I am bringing intimacy, partnership and playfulness. That is who I am in relationships. I’m still looking at what it takes to bring that 100% of the time and what it really looks like.

Any men out there who are interested in those three things?