What’s up with women twisting and turning themselves into whatever men want? Has it always been this way? It seems more prevalent now. That new hot guy you just started dating likes big boobs? You don’t have them, so you go get some. I think that has to be one of the more drastic things to do–surgery to change your body to fit a man’s “ideal.” This ideal isn’t based on reality. It’s based on airbrushed, surgically enhanced and starving models. It’s all about how you look.

Why is it that looks can mask so much? Looks–whatever turns a guy on–can be the biggest blinders to personality flaws. I see it all the time.

I’m guilty of making myself into a pretzel–twisting, turning, adjusting to make someone happy–or at least thinking that way. I haven’t done anything drastic yet. When these thoughts creep into my head at first I feel inadequate. I’m sure you can guess what that does to a relationship. After a few weeks, maybe a month, I realize I must be nuts to conform to some guy’s idea of beauty. It’s time to let him go if he doesn’t accept me for who I am.

Women are smart. Why do we put up with less than we deserve? Why do we allow these distorted images to take over our lives?