Is a letter from a nutty parent better than no letter at all? A friend of mine who isn’t speaking to his parents seemed to think it was nice that I got a letter from my father. Until a few weeks ago, my father didn’t even know where I was, and I liked it that way. After going through some seminars, it was suggested that I contact him to complete things. I did. He’s old. He had a stroke. It’s not like he’s capable of coming out here and showing up. I’d have him arrested if he did. I hadn’t spoken to him since I was 15. This is not a bad thing. It was easier that way. He was angry and took it out on everyone around him.

So a couple of weeks ago, I got a letter. Half of it was about some cat he has and the dogs. Oh, and where he lives–which I knew. The other half is all about this fixation he has about something one of my mother’s now ex-friends told him. He was fixated on it when I spoke to him. This is where the letter gets nutty. He goes on and on about how divorce is against God. Yep. One of those. He was in the Jehovah’s Witnesses, like his mother. He’s a true believer. Perhaps not a true follower though. So this ex-friend told him that my mother left him because he was cheating. Not true. My mother left because she couldn’t take the abuse anymore, and she had dreams of killing him with his own guns. That’s how bad it was. She’s not the type to have this kind of fantasy. So there’s this part in there that if my mother remarries (which has a zero percent chance of happening because the first was so awful) that she’s committing adultery.

He had written a letter to my mother almost a month ago on the same tirade, but with more nutty religiosity. See he thinks that Satan has her. He writes this. This is why I had no interest in contacting him. While forgiveness is easy–it’s hard to be spiteful towards a sick person–contact is not.