Here we are again talking about R. You’ve got to hear the latest.

I suggested we meet for coffee on Saturday afternoon. The response I got back was “how about Sunday night?” No, not a reasonable excuse like “I will be tired” or “I need to rest.” My suggestion wasn’t unreasonable either. He’s supposed to arrive at 1 pm, so I suggested meeting at 3 pm. Two hours should be enough time to get to the hotel and checked in—even if the plane is late and you have to pick up luggage. It’s only 15 minutes from the airport to downtown San Francisco.

I mentioned this to a friend, who wasn’t surprised. When I asked why, he said that it’s easier to get naked at night.

Now, I ask you—particularly the guys out there—is it easier to get a girl into bed at night? Does the time of day really matter? If you think you are only capable of getting a girl into bed at night, what does that say about your seducing techniques?

Time of day doesn’t matter to me if it is something All these questions remind me of another friend’s opinion that the women decide whether or not any sex will occur and that if she has decided that it won’t, there is nothing you can do to change that. There are women who resort to tricks to keep themselves from jumping into bed with their date, like not shaving their legs, wearing ugly underwear or super tight and overly difficult to remove clothing. I can’t say that I’ve tried any of that. I guess will power is enough for me.

Anyway, I would say R’s response says a lot about what he has in mind. There’s still no mention of being married. I will bet that he wouldn’t mention it all. I may not find out if he’s going to insist on meeting at night because I’m not going to do it.

I want to avoid the scenario he’s trying to create. I also have a hula workshop on Sunday, which lasts most of the day, so I need a good night’s sleep—in my own bed. R forgets that he was such a weasel more than 5 years ago. He’s a schmuck to think that I would want anything to do with him.

What I wish is that people would be upfront about what they want. Why isn’t that possible? The worst are those who lie—and you know they are lying, but they will argue until you give up in exasperation just to avoid being caught lying. I have an amazing BS detector, and little tolerance for dishonesty.

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